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11650 Lantern Rd Suite 232
Fishers, IN 46038
Couples Therapy
Fishers, IN | Online
Want to be less stuck and more connected? Our skilled couples therapists are here to help you rebuild trust, communication, and closeness.
Do You Just Want to Feel Like You and Your Partner Are on the Same Team?
Are you and your partner struggling to feel close, communicate clearly, or reconnect after a difficult chapter? Has the distance between you grown — whether from the pace of life, unresolved conflict, or emotional wounds that haven’t healed?
Even the most loving couples can lose their rhythm over time. But when both partners are willing to reflect on their patterns, take ownership of their role, and show up with curiosity and care, couples therapy can be a powerful space to grow together.
Whether you’re navigating disconnection, conflict, intimacy concerns, or life transitions, we offer thoughtful, structured support to help you strengthen your relationship and feel like you’re on the same team again.
Your Sex Life May Be Negatively Impacted by the Conflict in Your Relationship.
Perhaps your lack of a sex life, mismatched sexual desires, or less-than-satisfying sex has become a taboo subject you’re too embarrassed to talk about. Or maybe your intimate relationship has been impacted by infidelity, whether with a sexual or emotional affair or another form of betrayal that has broken down trust. Challenges with sexual intimacy could cause you or your partner to feel undesirable or unwanted by the other, pushing you even further apart. These moments often come with deep emotional and sexual costs. Understanding what vulnerability costs each partner can help you start to repair the bond.
If things aren’t right in your relationship, you might feel exhausted and preoccupied, worrying about what the future holds for your relationship. If only you could get back to feeling understood, accepted, desired, and unconditionally loved by your partner, you would feel more secure.
The good news is couples therapy offers you dedicated time to work on your relationship. Working with a marriage or couples therapist can help you restore your emotional and physical connection so that you are energized and nourished by the relationship and enjoy spending time together again.
We hold space for rebuilding trust and intimacy — but we also help couples explore whether the relational foundation is strong enough for that work. Emotional safety and willingness to engage in honest, compassionate repair are essential starting points.
Long-Term Relationships Are Constantly Put to the Test
All couples experience disconnection and conflict at times, even the healthiest of relationships. According to Dr. John Gottman's research, 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. This finding suggests that “solving” conflict is not the panacea most of us believe it is—rather, learning how to manage conflict more constructively is how we deepen connection.
The trials and tribulations we may experience throughout our lives—such as balancing work and family, raising children, transitioning into the empty nest phase, or caretaking older parents—will continuously put our relationship to the test. For example, research conducted by The Gottman Institute found that almost two-thirds of couples report a decline in relationship satisfaction up to three years after having a baby. That’s why receiving the proper support during these difficult chapters is so important.
Almost 70% of all conflict between romantic partners will never be resolved...so finding a way to manage conflict that fosters and deepens connection is key to making relationships work well.
While conflict is a natural part of every relationship, we focus on helping couples engage in ways that promote emotional safety, self-reflection, and shared accountability. If one or both partners feel unsafe, unseen, or controlled, we’ll work together to assess the most supportive path forward — which sometimes means beginning with individual work.
The Cultural Myths Surrounding Relationships
There is always more nuance and complexity - as well as filters and deleted scenes - than what any movie or influencer reveals.
The lack of authenticity portrayed in movies and media can fool even the best-intentioned couples into buying into the myths about what a real relationship looks like, both in and out of the bedroom. Unfortunately, many of us have allowed these unrealistic fantasies to inform our expectations of romantic relationships.
While we all bring "relationship baggage" into our romantic partnerships, we may not know how to carefully unpack it without support. In fact, when both partners start pulling away, it can create a silent but damaging cycle—understanding the withdrawer-withdrawer pattern can help you see what’s happening.
Although we know what needs to change, we don't know how to get there. —and this is why many couples think therapy doesn’t work. Here’s how to give your relationship the best chance. Fortunately, couples counseling can provide the roadmap you need to find your way back to each other.
Is Couples Therapy Right for Us?
We work best with couples who are ready to look inward, not just point fingers — where both partners are open to growth, accountability, and exploring new ways of relating.
Couples therapy can be especially effective if:
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You both want to work on the relationship, even if you’re unsure how
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You’re willing to reflect on your own part in conflict and disconnection
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You can stay engaged in the process, even when it feels vulnerable
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You’re committed to building emotional safety, not just solving surface issues
Couples therapy may NOT be the best fit if:
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One partner feels emotionally unsafe or regularly dismissed
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There is a pattern of controlling, contemptuous, or manipulative behavior
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One partner is using therapy as a way to “fix” or change the other
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There’s active abuse or coercion that hasn’t been addressed in individual work
If you’re not sure where you fall, that’s okay. We’re here to help you assess what kind of support will serve you best — whether that’s couples therapy, individual work, or discernment counseling. The most important thing is that you feel safe, seen, and supported in your next step.
Why Couples Therapy Helps
Couples therapy can help you deepen your emotional and sexual connection.
It can help create intentionality around becoming better acquainted with your own and your partner's thoughts and feelings, dreams and desires, values and goals. The busyness of life can leave little space for you to enjoy quality time connecting and, instead, cause distance and distress. But you don’t have to reach a breaking point in the relationship to consider couples counseling. Acknowledging you could benefit from receiving support is not a sign of failure but rather a way to cement your relationship through improved understanding, compassion, and commitment.
Couples therapy can help you recognize why it’s been challenging to shift from a relationship dynamic that isn’t working into a new cadence that supports growth and connection. Part of that shift often involves creating emotional safety—building secure attachment in relationships is a key step toward lasting change.
We also provide a comfortable and encouraging space for couples to safely talk through sexual concerns, learn about different models of sexual desire, and practice strategies between counseling sessions that help reduce anxiety around emotional vulnerability, physical affection, and sexual intimacy.
Ready to get started?
Schedule your first in-person session at our Fishers office — or online throughout the country.
For LGBTQIA+ and Non-Traditional Relationship Clients Interested in Couples Counseling
Our therapists are committed to honoring and celebrating diversity in all its forms. As such, we enjoy working with all members of the LGBTQIA+ community as well as those in poly, open, and ethical non-monogamy relationships who are interested in couples therapy. Relationship therapy can help you improve communication, navigate conflict better, enjoy more pleasurable sex, and strengthen your bond.
Our Approach to Couples Therapy
Each of our therapists is trained in a variety of research-supported models for couples therapy and tailors treatment to the unique needs of each relationship. Depending on the couple and the goals of therapy, we may draw from Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and the Gottman Method.
Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT) helps couples understand the entrenched patterns that keep them feeling stuck while fostering both acceptance and meaningful change. By exploring each partner’s unique experiences, vulnerabilities, and strengths, couples gain insight into why these patterns developed and learn new ways of responding to conflict and disconnection.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples identify and reshape the emotional dynamics that influence their relationship. As partners better understand each other’s attachment needs and emotional experiences, they can strengthen trust, security, and connection. If you’re curious about why this approach is so effective, explore why EFT works and how it transforms relationships.
The Gottman Method provides practical, evidence-based tools for improving communication, managing conflict, and strengthening friendship and intimacy.
Couples therapy is about more than resolving conflict—it’s about creating the kind of relationship you both want to have. As you develop a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and the patterns that shape your relationship, you’ll begin to respond to one another in new ways. Over time, this can strengthen emotional intimacy, rekindle your sexual connection, and help you build a relationship that feels more connected, resilient, and fulfilling.
What to Expect in Sessions
Every relationship has its own story. Our couples therapy process is designed to help us understand your relationship deeply and establish a clear direction for our work together.
Phase 1: Assessment
We begin with a thoughtful assessment process with both joint and individual sessions. Before we focus on change, we take time to understand how your relationship has developed, the experiences that have shaped it, the strengths you already possess, and how you relate to one another during moments of connection and conflict.
Rather than viewing conflicts as a series of isolated problems, we work together to identify the recurring patterns that repeatedly emerge between you. Understanding these patterns helps us move beyond addressing individual disagreements and toward recognizing and shifting the deeper processes that keep you feeling stuck.
The assessment phase concludes with a feedback session where we bring everything together into a shared understanding of your relationship. We’ll discuss the themes we’ve identified, the strengths you can build on, and the areas where therapy is most likely to help. Together, we’ll establish clear priorities for the work ahead so our work remains focused on what matters most to your relationship.
Phase 2: The Work
Using what we’ve learned during the assessment phase, we’ll tailor therapy to your relationship’s unique strengths, challenges, and goals. While every couple’s journey is different, therapy may include:
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Understanding the patterns that keep you feeling stuck or disconnected.
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Learning healthier and more productive ways of navigating conflict.
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Strengthening emotional connection by better understanding one another’s needs and what helps each of you feel loved and supported.
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Building the skills to stay emotionally present during difficult conversations and communicate more effectively.
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Understanding how your personal histories and attachment experiences shape your relationship.
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Rebuilding trust after relationship injuries.
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Deepening emotional and physical intimacy and having open conversations about sex, desire, and sexuality.
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Creating new ways of relating that feel more secure, connected, and fulfilling.
Phase 3: Consolidation
Our goal is for you to gain the confidence to do outside of therapy what you've learned to do inside therapy—understand each other at a deeper level, compassionately identify areas that require acceptance, bravely address issues that require change, and navigate life as a team. This phase of therapy is where integration occurs. We’ll know therapy has done its job when you can say: “We won’t always get it right, but we know how to repair, do better, and navigate life’s ups and downs as a team.”
Life doesn’t always unfold the way we expect. If a future season brings new challenges, returning to couples therapy for a brief period can be a supportive step. When that time comes, our door is always open. We’ll pick up where we left off and help you regain your footing together.
Building Momentum
Relationship concerns often develop over months or years, and meaningful change takes time. During the first few months of therapy, we typically meet weekly so we can build momentum, strengthen trust, and begin shifting long-standing patterns.
To support consistency, we generally schedule sessions in two- to three-month blocks. This allows therapy to become a reliable part of your routine while ensuring you have dedicated time to invest in your relationship.
But Maybe You’re Not Sure if Couples Therapy Is Right for You…
We aren’t sure we can make the time or financial commitment right now.
Beginning couples therapy is a significant investment of both time and money, and it’s reasonable to carefully consider whether it’s the right step for your relationship. Lasting change rarely happens in just a few sessions. It takes time to better understand the patterns that have developed, strengthen new ways of relating to one another, and practice those changes outside of therapy. While the commitment is meaningful, many couples find that investing in their relationship now creates benefits that extend far beyond the therapy room.
My partner told me they won't attend couples counseling.
Although couples therapy is most effective when both partners are present and engaged in the process, individual sessions focusing on better understanding and improving your role in communication can also steer your relationship in a positive direction. Not only can you learn about healthy relationship functioning—such as how to skillfully communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs while navigating through conflict—but you can also identify your part in the dynamic that keeps your relationship stuck.
We don't want to stay together. Can a couples therapist help us through the separation process?
Even if you’ve decided to separate or dissolve the marriage, couples counseling can benefit you. Learning how to respectfully and “consciously uncouple” can be a valuable experience that will enrich your present and future relationships. You will learn how to navigate this transition with a minimum of emotional pain, for both you, your children, extended family, and friends. If you’re trying to decide whether to separate or salvage the relationship, therapy with a discernment counselor can help guide you to a mutually beneficial decision.
Begin Couples Therapy in Fishers, IN or Online Across the U.S.
Your Relationship Is Worth the Investment.
We offer in-person couples therapy in Fishers, Indiana as well as online therapy throughout Indiana and across the country for added flexibility. Whether you are seeking in-person or virtual therapy, our therapists are here to help you rebuild connection and closeness.
There is so much to gain from working to improve your relationship with a skillful couples therapist. To book a FREE 15-minute phone consult or to schedule your first session, call or text 317-747-0574 or visit our contact page.
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11650 Lantern Rd Suite 232,
Fishers, IN 46038